FAQ

•  What if I want to sign but my current partner/spouse/lover is already a porn user?

That's tricky. We're not here to tell you what to do, but we hope that if you are seriously against pornography that you'll find a way to talk to your partner honestly about their porn use. You could get lucky, if they're just a casual user who never gave much thought to the matter before. However, if they're a major user or an addict, you're in for a tougher fight. Still, we believe that you need to know sooner rather than later whether your partner truly considers your feelings and discomfort secondary to their porn use.

•  Isn't it good enough that I'm antiporn? Why does my partner have to be also?

We believe that things are never going to change unless people who are against pornography start refusing to have intimate relationships with known porn users. For example, a woman who puts up with her mate's porn use despite her discomfort is helping reinforce the myth that women don't really mind their partners going to strip clubs or masturbating to online porn. This makes it easier for other users to say things like, "Everyone else's girlfriend is okay with them using it, so why are you so uptight about it?" That doesn't help any of us.

•  What if I sign the pledge, but change my mind later?

If you think you may change your mind about the pledge, be sure to include your email address when you sign. Then, if you want your name deleted later on, you'll have to email us from that address.

•  How will you know if I continue to use porn after signing?

We won't. That's why you shouldn't sign unless you're certain.

•  What if I'm not ready to sign?